You aren’t a slouch. You are highly invested in yourself and your career. However, for the life of you, you can’t understand how you keep going in circles. You have tried everything. You’ve read every book and signed up for every professional training but gotten nowhere.
I understand your frustration because I was once there. There is a way out. It doesn’t have to be this way.
Here are my 5 ways to stop struggling and start succeeding.
Too many people get stuck in the mire and muck over what-ifs and paralysis of analysis. What if this doesn’t work? What if people don’t support me? Stop it right now! This overthinking keeps you struggling mentally and professionally. When you can’t focus, your career is out of focus. Stop overthinking and select one course of action. Selecting one thing frees you from all of those other competing thoughts. Furthermore, when you focus on one thing, you know exactly which direction you are supposed to go.
Stop negative thinking
Negative thinking and people drain you emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Let’s get to the root of it: you have negative thoughts because the one time that you decided to try something new, it failed. You are now carrying that one experience with you everywhere. Stop it!
Here’s my story:
I failed my first project management exam. I studied, took the online prep simulation, everything. When I went to the testing center, I was like a fish out of water. I was studying the current resource guide but the testing center’s software had the previous edition. I didn’t know any of the phrases or concepts. My brain hurt. I failed leaving dejected, with a stress headache and $225 lighter in my wallet.
Did I wallow there? No way. After sulking for a couple of days, I scrapped together the reexamination fee, honed in on my studies, and found 1000 new certification questions on the Internet. Two weeks later, I took the test and passed (in the middle of an earthquake no less!).
I went on to earning three more certifications and two more promotions. What if I had stopped at the first failure? I would not writing this to you. Stop allowing one past negative event control your future.
Start taking the first step
You have to start somewhere. Pick one thing. It doesn’t have to be a very big thing. I would caution against picking a very big task because it creates overwhelm and overthinking. Pick something small that puts you on pace to achieve that big win.
Fail to plan, plan to fail. You have to lay out your first step in a plan. A plan eliminates the overthinking and negative thinking. When you have a plan, you have direction. It is like a map. This plan maps out your destination eliminating the overthinking. A plan also removes doubt and negative thinking because you can always refer to get when you get down.
Start celebrating the small wins
Don’t gloss over your win. Celebrate it. Taking time out to celebrate your way acknowledges that you are no longer stuck and in the same situation as before. Your situation has changed. More importantly, you have done it trampling overthinking and negative thinking.
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